Monday, 17 December 2012

Last Friday December 14th in America

Like so many people I have been appalled at what happened in a little primary school in an affluent part of Connecticut in America. That someone who was only in his young adulthood, should choose to enter a school and decimate the children after killing his own mother, is beyond any normal person's understanding. As a mother myself, I have cried over those pictures of all the little ones staring out at the camera, full of life.. now no more.. The heartache that it has bought to their families, the brave teachers that tried to stop the carnage... all those families will be a long time traumatised by the events that happened a few days ago.
Of course being able to access guns, made it easier for him to carry out such destruction, but it wasn't just the guns, it was the fact that he was very very medically unsafe and his mother was trying to cope all on her own.. When children display illnesses such as this boy had done over the years, she should have had the strength to put him away in an institution where he would have been looked after. She obviously knew that it was getting to a boiling point in her relationship with him, as she spoke about it with her friends.. Mental illness is very hard to cope with, and growing up with a child that displayed all these odd tendancies, she must have known something was going to happen before long, and that she would be helpless to stop. It now seems she was quite paranoid, and was stocking up food and items that would help her little family get through any difficult times ahead... From hearing what the older boy has had to say, it would appear, that he was quite capable and outgoing and completely different from his damaged brother.

Her not being able, or not wanting to take the step  of putting away her child, has led to her being shot dead, and so many others too..
 Don't just focus on the gun laws in America, but have a hard long look at the mental health act and why it isnt doing more for parents, trying to deal with  the care of their mentally disturbed children..

WE are all to blame for turning a blind eye when  aware that people around you are displaying odd behaviour, just hoping it will all sort itself out... but it never does, someone has to make a move, both on the gun front and also where the health act can be applied in order to make the world a bit safer...

There was an article written in a newspaper over the last weekend, by a lady,saying that she had similar times and trouble dealing with her 13 year old.. she also was identifying her situation as very similar to one in the Lamza household...

she showed that there was indifference by the authorities to offer help to her in this terrible situation.. it doesn't matter that on his good days he is lovely, with such behaviour patterns, he should be away from the general public and in a safe place..By writing the article she was showing the world, the real picture and why so many parents have to cope on their own.. there is a real disinclination to get involved unless they commit crimes..

 but prison is not the answer, its not a safe environment, and they would certainly not be cared for in such a place, but it seems its the only way for the authorities in America to sit up and take an interest... what a mess it all is.....

Of course, its not easy, allowing children to be taken away into an institution, but it certainly would make the streets of any town a lot safer, if mentally disturbed children and adults were in a safe place and not in the towns and cities, able to move around and no one really caring what they were doing, or planning.

I know also that this murdered mother was trying her best to manage it all on her own, and  I think a little of her own paranoid thoughts must have made all her life  quite a bit harder...

Now for all the efforts on her part to keep her family together , its going to be her older boy that is going to have to come to terms with the fact of the mass murders, and that his little brother was responsible.. poor bereft young man, I pray for him too- he really does need all our prayers as well..


  1. Part of me is relieved that he killed his mother. How would her heart ever hold so much sadness? I wonder where the father is?

  2. I agree very much with you. The father and the brother will have to live with it. The poor families, community, nation, as well as the world. I have cried off and on since Friday over this. I just can't shake it.

    We, America, do need tighter gun laws, background checks should be done. Automatic or semi-automatic rifles should be banned. What use are they? One does not hunt with them.

    I agree we, America, need to have better mental health system as well.

    Just my thoughts from here in the midwest of the US.

    Thank you for your post.

  3. A post from the heart. I'm so glad to hear you and your reader say that you are in favour of tighter gun controls. We don't hear this side of America very often, I'm sorry to say, and it is unerving at times. I agree no one needs a semi-automatic assault weapon and somehow more help has to be made availble for the mentally ill - on both sides of the border.