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Friday, 12 June 2015

Why Me again Lord~>?>

As y ou may remember from a previous posting, I now have a full set of dentures. These are not the most easy thing to get used to, but they worked after a fashion.. I still have to wait six months before I can have a new pair that will fit better and be more comfortable. However, this morning, having cleaned them, I wrapped them in a cloth and laid them on my table in my bedroom. I was busying myself as you do, and saw a fly buzzing around, and the first thing I did, was grab the cloth to flick at the fly... You can guess what happened next.... the fly was fine, but as I flicked the material, both dentures flew away out of sight**! I managed to find the top row fairly easily, but hunted high and low for the bottom dentures.. no luck... felt really stupid at losing the darn things.. then went out into the hall landing, where of course I did find the missing dentures... but it was split in a complete half, and unusuable.... horror.... gosh, with my top plate in, don't look too bad, but unable to eat or even speak clearly without the bottom ones.!!!.. Mad dash to dentist in next village, where had to explain in front of a crowded reception room my dire emergency and need to see a dentist.. The receptionist calmed me down and took the dentures upstairs to the dentist and I waited for the outcome.. she came and told me to come back on MONDAY after 2 pm, when they should be back after being mended... Of course this is Friday and they do not work on saturdays, so Monday it has to be... [thank goodness I didn't have this accident on next wednesday just before leaving for Canada!!!] Apart from this major disaster first thing this morning, my day has not been too bad.. spoken to another school friend who is trying to cope with her husband who has Alzeimers and is becoming more difficult to manage.. In fact she is finding that no normal place will take him for respite.. that he probably needs to go into a Nursing Home, and the difference between the amount that subsidises him, is over 300 pounds less than needed and that the family would have to find the difference each week to keep him there on a full time basis. Its great that she can get financial help, but where do they find the difference.?.. She has been coping with him for several years, ever since he had a stroke and the decline has been so awful. She is coping all on her own, her son and his family are of course too busy to help and all her own family are gone. In August they will have been married fifty years and I was their bridesmaid, so we are planning to meet up for a lunch to celebrate with the other bridesmaid.. so sad that it all ends so awfully. They had a good and happy marriage, but the stroke took away their future.. My greatest fear is losing my mind.. I am sure that many share the same horror of it.[ When I get memory lapses that I have never had before, it makes me scared that I might go that way.]. They say now that doing crosswords does not necessarily sharpen the brain and arm it against these illnesses, but surely it must help? Having said that, I was never one for the jigsaws or puzzles or soduku so don't know how it will end for me. Unfortunately I know how it is going to end for my dear friend that I visited a few weeks ago... When I saw her, she said she was on her last weeks from the 12 she had been told... frightening to know how impossible that was to dodge, but she had got all her affairs in order and wills and burial sorted.. [actually, I wouldn't mind having the time to do it myself instead of just slipping off and leaving everyone else to sort it out...] but I knew she was scared and so upset at not being able to share more years with her husband and family.. but it does just happen that our road runs out and we are already at our destination* I guess that is why the Ancients said that' Carpe Diem,' and its so right... Seize everyday hard, and make it work the best for you and never harm anyone in doing it.. that way you achieve all that you desire and are loved by all who know you.. Wish that were easy to do, but it isn't is it? Trying to live in 'the moment' is much easier said than done, but worth trying all the same.. and.... avoiding stupid situations like my morning accident, so I would'nt have to shout out in disgust at my stupidity!!!

5 comments:

  1. We all do those kind of things at times. I swear there is a black hole in my house because things go missing all the time.

    So sorry about your friend and her husband. I hope she can find some kind of care for him. My step father had Alzheimers but my mother was able to get him into a nursing home that his Social Security paid for. It was a great relief to her and a help to him in his final days.

    Life is short. We should live each day to the fullest and not worry about what is ahead of us. That is what I try to do.

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  2. Oh, no...but it does make kind of an amusing picture in my head.
    A good friend just lost her husband to Parkinson's/dementia. She took such good care of him, but had just gotten to the point where she could not handle him on her own anymore and was looking into nursing homes. Such a hard thing. I think it was kind of my husband to go quickly, even though unexpectedly.

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  3. I'm so sorry about your friend's husband and also about your friend who is at the end of her journey. Very sad times.

    Life truly is short and we should enjoy every moment of it.

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  4. I had a patient that had is dentures dropped and just one tooth fell out. The poor guy had to walk around with a gap-toothed smile. None of the staff ever owned up to it. Do you have a denture container to keep them in?

    Yes. Dementia. There is a woman not far from the community I live in that was diagnosed with Alzheimers who decided to take her own life after she was diagnosed. You can read about it here. http://deadatnoon.com/index.html

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  5. So glad you will have your repairs done for your trip! You are heading to my neck of the woods :) Saddened to hear of your friends husband, will keep her in my prayers

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